on hurting someone's feelings

i decided that the best way to resolve the whole diane telling mike my secrets issue was to talk to her about it.

i told her that i didnt want to bitch or start a fight or anything, but i really had to tell her cause it bothered me. i told her that it really upset me that she told mike things that i tell her. i share with her in confidence, because shes my best friend, and the things i tell her always get back to mike and thats just not fair to me. if i want mike to know something, i'll tell him.

she cried and apologized. i felt bad. i know that me getting mad at her for things like that always makes her sad. its not the first time that we've had this conversation, argument, whatever you want to call it. i thought things would be different if we had the calm conversation versus the full out fight, but that didnt seem to make a difference.

i think the best way to resolve the issue is to not tell diane anything. that breaks my heart, i love sharing with her and getting her opinion and talking about things that happen in all aspects of my life. but if everything i tell her is going to get to mike, im going to have to limit what i share. im going to have to censor myself to my best friend. fuck.